In Tantra massages the entire body, including the genitals, are touched healingly. The atmosphere created especially for the Tantra ritual allows the giver and the receiver alike to enter a more expansive space of presence and consciousness. The entire human being is addressed and the one-sided fixation on the sexual is overcome.
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The Tantra massage of the entire body
For many people Tantra massages open a new part of being which expands and enriches their sexual experience enormously. Tantra massages are an invitation for everyone who finds it difficult to open themselves to physical love, to start anew. For the centres, which hold violations, most of the time the heart and sex centres, it is important to cautiously and respectfully put nourishing “balm” onto the wounds. Therefore the giver stays in the attitude of purposelessness for support. This way the receiver may explore what the various touches may trigger as fearlessly as possible. Emotional openness, spiritual connectedness, presence in the body, mental clarity and inspiration appear.
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Even though the sex centres are also touched, there is no sexual stimulation targeted. The simple presence, empathy and holding give body and heart new signals, which enable them to receive and experience a new, deep opening. Most people’s bodies have never experienced purposeless presence, and let go of old suppressed tightness during this new experience,giving way to softness and sensibility. The purposeless presence of someone else makes it possible to listen deeply inside and to arrive at oneself. That which is possible in this atmosphere of such alertness and presence goes beyond words.
We recommend always imbedding tantric massages in a ritual. On this webpage you find many ideas on how to decorate a tantric temple and how to create a tantric atmosphere as background for a Tantric ritual. For healing to take place for both the giver and the receiver, the mutual tuning in and meditation are of great importance. Because this opens the inner space of the limited visibility of “ego world” to the “greater”, the only source of healing.
From Mind via the Body to Experience the Inner Body
- Tantra Massages: The way to inside starts with the body
A beggar has been sitting on the curb forover thirty years. One day a stranger passes by. “Have you got a coin?” the beggar murmurs, mechanically holding out his baseball cap. “There is nothing I could give you,” the stranger says and then asks, “What are you actually sitting on?” “Well,” answers the beggar, “it’s only an old case. I have been sitting on it as long as I can remember.” “Ever looked inside?“ the stranger asks. “No,“ said the beggar, “why should I? There’s nothing in it.“ ”Look inside,“ the stranger urges him. The beggar manages to break open the case. Full of amazement, disbelief and excitement he discovers that the case is filled with gold. (From Eckhart Tolle, The power of Now!, p.23)
Escape the Mind
Every spiritual practice has the goal of liberating from the slavery of the mind. The mind is constantly busy with the past or the future. It tries to avoid the present. However, the present is the only place where real enlightenment is possible. In contrast to many opinions perpetuated by religions, Tantra makes use of the body for the journey within instead of denying, devaluating or disassociating it. For many people it is very difficult to escape the permanent thought loops. People who are trapped by the films in their head know how difficult it is to find fulfilment in sexuality. On the journey within, the external body is the first stop. It is the treasure box which we have been sitting on, with secrets inside that most people don’t even have a clue might be there. When Eckhart Tolle, one of the greatest spiritual teachers of our times, suggests that we should open the treasure box, he wants to show us the way inside – the way into the body and, from there, beyond it.
Tantra massages show the way to connect oneself again with one’s own body and to anchor firmly within it. One gift Tantra massages give is that this happens both to the giver and the receiver. Regular practice of Tantra massages beautifies and greatly enhances the quality of life. As Tantra massage takes a lot of time and real slowing down, you need to re-conquer enough time and space from the mind. This is part of your spiritual journey. Tantra massages take place within a Tantric ritual. Therefore allow at least two hours during which you may enter the space of pure being again and again, far beyond distractions and thoughts. This expansion of consciousness does not happen through meditation in a quiet chamber but in an alive, “hands-on” encounter.
Back to original naturalness through Tantra massages
- Tantra Massages: The path within starts with the body
To be naked together and to touch each other lovingly is not a matter of course for many people. Most religions have strictly separated sexuality and spirituality and limited the free expression of sexuality. That’s why shame, feelings of guilt and fear are attached to physical lust. The beauty cult in modern times has made its further contribution, to the point that some people hide themselves quite completely, so their naked body may hardly ever or never be seen by others. They feel inferior because perfect physical appearance is attributed such great importance. But the body is only a picture frame. It serves to hold the painting it contains. If more significance is placed upon the frame around a picture than on the content itself, then physical lust becomes stale and flat or the soul “sold”. Tantra massages contribute to acceptance of the body as it is, to learning to show oneself with it. This step is important and should always precede Tantra massages. During Tantra massages the entire body is touched. The genitals are not carefully worked around or left out, but are included in the holistic experience. In the course of several Tantra massages body sensations which had been dissociated are integrated again.
During a Tantra massage all body parts are equally touched in a slow and steady flow. The sex centres are neither excluded nor emphasized during a whole body Tantra massage. To particularly nourish them and recover the natural contact with them, you use the special Tantra massages like yoni and lingam massages. The Tantra massages overcome the deep split between sexuality and religion. Each Tantra massage brings back a piece of naturalness. Once free contact with the body and sexuality is recovered, the next step of the journey begins – the pathway from the external body to the internal body, which awakens during delicate Tantra massages and may be felt as gentle stream of energy throughout the body.
The body as temple of the soul
On the journey within, the body becomes an important guidepost. Once you have sucessfully escaped from the mind and arrived in the body, feeling the body becomes the so-called “inner voice”. Like a musical instrument, the body makes the state of the spirit visible via the senses and perception. When people trust their body and its signals, it brings them back to “themselves”. Instead of getting lost in the outside, the living in the own body becomes a strong base of life and the foundation of a self-determined life. Whoever sees this clearly will easily be able to imagine the unlimited abundance possible through Tantra massage. Tantra massages always take place as part of a Tantra ritual. A normal room is transformed into a holy space, a love temple with cloths, candles, fragrance and music. A temple is a house of God, a holy site. To look at the body as a temple for the soul is the first major step on the path to more consciousness and love. A temple itself is nothing. It becomes a house of God through the altar in its interior. The altar is the holy site. The treasure box, hidden in the body as described in the anecdote above, is this altar.
The tantric greeting “Namasté – I greet the Divine in you!” addresses the so-called true self, the deep core of being in every human. Once two lights connect, the light gets brighter. Spiritual canals open, from which place a kind of blessing arises. Sometimes this blessing is perceived like a holy atmosphere, similar to the atmosphere during a divine service, if the service addresses and takes the person as a whole. Through the conscious connection to the inner source, a Tantra massage is lifted above daily life, is on a higher plane, and the limits imposed by the human mind are overcome. So sometimes a miracle of a transpersonal encounter beyond name and form might happen. There are no words to describe this. Amazement might come the closest. Tantra is no religion, however it makes union between sexuality and spirituality possible. Each person reaches the goal in his or her own way. It doesn’t matter whether he or she weaves the tantric experience of a Tantra massage into his special religion or is irreligious. Treatment with respect and appreciation is appropriate in a temple. If honour and attentiveness are added, the inner temple opens.
Harmonizing through Tantra Massages
- Relaxing with Tantra massages
There are many methods of consciousness which complement and enhance a Tantra massage. Amongst them Reiki, Yoga, meditation and various forms of breath work. A comfortable body sensation definitely helps to achieve anchorage in the inner body faster and to be able to hold it. In BeFree Tantra massages communication via the body, the voice and breath is important. This creates physical presence and maintians constant connection with the other person. This may be the reason why people may get very close during Tantra massages. During the entire Tantra massage the flow of the breath is gentle, though deep.
It is a great aid to keep letting go of the temptations of a busy mind. The giver and the receiver both will soon fall into deep relaxation. If you look at people’s faces after a Tantra massage they look years younger. This fact most likely expresses more about Tantra massages than every attempt to describe their effect.
The tantric expansion through Tantra massages
For people interested in the Tantric path, Tantra massages are part of their spiritual practice. They offer a possibility to explore and balance Yin and Yang, the active and passive elements of life. Therefore giving as well as receiving Tantra massages is part of the inner schooling. Giving teaches us to put aside our own impulses and to put ourselves completely at the service of the receiver. This means not using Tantra massage with the express purpose of acheiving (physical) closeness or sex. The clear structure of a Tantric ritual and the prescribed sequence of a Tantric massage are strictly followed. Touches are not used to “have” or “get” something for oneself. This attitude of pure presence for the other person is an act of devotion. That’s why tantric students are, generally speaking, capable of giving or receiving a Tantra massage to or from anyone. This is not expected of participants in Tantra seminars. The ability to receive is underdeveloped in many people. Some can hardly stand lying still and not doing anything. This underscores even more the necessity to learn just this. Deep receptivity means to also open the heart and deeper layers of being. In the end, it is always love that is received, whether through words, looks or massage touches.
In the course of the practice of all Tantra massages a very sensitive perception of one’s own body is developed. The energy flow within the body can be felt. The inner body awakens. Some people feel the streams as warmth, others feel prickling or something like inner electricity. The magnetic stream may be enjoyed together after a Tantra massage in the YabYum position. There is nothing left do. Bliss and resting at the edge of eternity are sometimes possible at the end of a Tantra massage. The power and strength stimulated by a Tantra massage can often been seen even days after the massage.
Practical Aspects of Tantra massages
It is advisable to use a non-scented, neutral oil like jojoba or sesame oil. The heated oil should be pouredd into a small bowl to make it easier and avoid unnecessary ”fuss” for the person giving the massage. It is advisable to put the bowl on a plate to avoid oil stains on the floor or mattress.
Have paper towels handy to lightly wipe off hands or body. If you have taken too much oil, you can make dabbing the surplus oil off a loving, sensual experience.
Don’t put candles on easily flammable cloths or too close to the place of action. Careless movements or a draught of air could lead to unpleasant surprises during the Tantra massage.
Most women dislike having their hair touched by oily hands. If in doubt, ask first – lest the overall mood suffer on that account.
As massage giver, take care that you sit as comfortably as possible. Keep changing your position before “sacrificing” yourself. Keep body contact. If this is not possible, communicate softly to the receiver that you have to let go for a brief moment to change position.
Keep asking the receiver during the Tantra massages whether everything is alright. As receiver, dare to express your needs: Maybe you need a paper towel, or a blanket around your cold feet. Maybe a touch is too hard or too soft for you.
After the Tantra massage, the needs of the receiver still set the tone. Pay attention to staying “on duty”. Maybe your partner simply wants to fade out in silence or to spoon. Sometimes a two-way display of affection develops. Plan at least half an hour of “after-rest” and, as a giver, put aside your own needs.
Tantric massages show the path to more consciousness and attentiveness. They help you to accept what is. Pressure to perform and targeted sexual stimulation are out of place here. For example it is neither necessary to produce an erection nor to supress one. A woman does not need to achieve sexual arousal during or after the Tantra massage. Sometimes deep relaxation is needed and thus the next step. Don’t pressure either yourself or the other!
The right room temperature during a Tantra massage is a challenge for many people. The receiver lying down needs a lot of warmth. Therefore for the giver the room sometimes seems so warm that it becomes difficult to stay present and alert. One possibility to overcome the challenge can be a warm blanket which provides the necessary warmth from below and keeps the room at a temperature acceptable for both.
The tendency is that men prefer rather firm and hard touches whereas women also like the feather-light, almost energetic touches. Exceptions prove the rule. Therefore keep talking about this before and during the massage. Usually the person “automatically” gives the kind of touch he likes for himself. This way one can miss” the other by a long shot.