The Anus

Some people don’t have any experience with touching the anus. For them the anus is a “forbidden” area of the body. This is where stool and gases leave the body. The associated smells are disliked and even considered disgusting, particularly when coming from other people. The anus has also been given an unpleasant association through male homosexuality. That’s why men often don’t dare to receive an anus massage, afraid of experiencing lust and maybe being “gay.” Other people have discovered the anus as a source of lust, but have not treated this vulnerable area with any particular care. Therefore they feel tight and tense instead of relaxed, because every painful experience is stored in the body’s memory. Some people have problems with their bowel movements, or haemorrhoids, and therefore associate their “lower gate” with pain. The physical discomfort during constipation is indication that the person is holding on to something, letting it harden.  Then the actual letting go, of course necessary, becomes difficult and painful. Laxatives are not a permanent solution, as long as the psychological cause has not been dealt with.

For many men the anus massage is a very important and necessary experience, not only in overcoming the fear of being homosexual but also in being able to empathize with their partner when having sex. Men can experience how it feels having someone penetrate their body and how important it is that the body opens itself for this. They feel the pain experienced when penetration encounters resistance, and are deeply touched when the person touching them respects the boundaries and only advances as the body allows. This also sensitizes men for the penetration of the lingam during sexual union. Like a woman’s Yoni, the anus muscle also has its own intelligence. Once it is ready, it will open on its own. In some people it may take a long time before the opening becomes possible. Along the way many blockages can be loosed and old wounds healed. During an anus massage boundaries must be respected. The massage may only be practised as long as there is no pain. Pain is taken seriously as a clear signal. For the woman as well as for the man, careful opening of the anus area opens a deeper level of feeling and spiritual intimacy. Whoever wants to advance in their self-healing process more quickly may insert a small dildo several times a week and practise anal breathing.

When the anus area is touched respectfully and consciously, deepset emotional blockages can come to light and be dissolved. Regular anus massages loosen the tissue, increase blood circulation, create deep intimacy, clear emotional burdens and fears, and facilitate an intensive connection to the inner body. This helps us escape the thought-preoccupied, top-heaviness of this world, to deeply relax the body and on top of that even to discover new sources of lust.